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Our lives have been turned upside down in 2020. From bushfires to COVID, we’ve all had to face challenges.
Many of us have are still adjusting to new ways of living, working and socialising. Can these differences and imperfections bring us together or will our physical distancing lead to increased isolation?
And how can we step back and gain some resilience and perspective in uncertain times?
Speaking on ANZ’s Wellbeing Conversation series professional mentor and leadership coach, Ben Crowe says we shouldn’t let external factors control our story, because we run the risk of giving away what little control we have.
Ben says: “I think everyone on the planet has to develop a level of resilience… And for me, resilience is having a perspective where you understand it’s our decisions, not the conditions that determine our mindset, our self-worth and our attitude. If you don't have that, the conditions will determine your mindset for you.”
Talking with Ben, ANZ’s Group Executive Digital and Australia Transformation, Maile Carnegie, adds for her, personal resilience is about striking a balance with mental agility and looking after the whole self. “By investing in my physical health, my emotional health, that meant I had hugely more energy to draw from and become more resilient mentally and at work,” she says.
Paralympian and Gold Medallist, Dylan Alcott agrees. For him resilience is about being open and vulnerable in the face of disappointment or frustration. “When I go to a bar and they tell me I can't go in because of steps or whatever. I would have taken a really hard, resilient approach,” he says. “I’d tell them I'm fine. I'm fine… But the best way to be resilient is to talk about how you're feeling and to be vulnerable in that situation,” he says.
Ben believes it’s not the experiences we have that determine our lives, but the meaning we give those experiences. “Two people can have the exact same experience, the exact same trauma but two very different stories… post-traumatic stress or post-traumatic growth,” he says.
Some of the most difficult times unlock the greatest lessons and sense of humility according to Ben. “Celebrate the imperfections of life, because let's face it, life is imperfect and life is uncertain and life is vulnerable - it's imperfections that connect humans the most.”
“The world is imperfect right now and you're seeing the most amazing connection in terms of the sense of humanity during the bushfires over the summer suddenly we got off our banana lounges taking selfies of our feet and we started caring about the country burning down and the welfare of animals and caring for the communities,” he says. “Once we realised it's imperfections that connect us, we can we can take off that mask and embrace our weird and celebrate those things. And that's where authenticity and vulnerability and connection kind of come in.”